The Virtues Project describes the virtue of openness (among other attributes) as the ability to "... reveal our thoughts candidly without attempting to manage the responses of others."
Perhaps it was because of having grown up in a violent home, but possessing the ability to anticipate and remain a few steps is deeply ingrained in me.
So it came to pass that my entire being, and body, reacted to the above statement. Not to mention an avalanche of cultural narratives began clamouring for primacy - such as "that is just plain irresponsible" and "only selfish people don't care how others react to their actions" and "free speech is overrated."
Is there however a kernel of truth and wisdom in the statement?
I believe so.
Honesty, like all other virtues, is powerful when there is no intention to manipulate, and emanates from a deep intention to be-ing true to one self. When yielded with self-compassion, and sincerely offered as an invitation to be known, and therefore to connect ... it permits others to be candidly honest as well.
The resonance of sincerity and purity in an honest utterance can be felt by the soul.
I used to resist sharing about my past because I was distrustful of my own intent, afraid that in my anger, I would use my pain to emotionally manipulate my listener(s). Today, I share selectively, but before words are formed, I take a moment to check-in on my intent. And to the best of my ability and conscience, I sense the "right-ness" of sharing in that moment.
Being honest with one self is truly the hardest journey of all.
While I may scientifically develop check-points, maps, steps, frameworks ... ultimately it is the maturing of a conversation with my self, and trusting the process of refinement and distillation and de-layering that slowly reveals my self, to my self ... that is the art of simple honesty.
First the journey of homecoming.
Then comes the story of acceptance.
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